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Help - Yes No Maybe Feature You'll notice that we now provide coloured buttons in the search results and on members' profiles.
The principle is really simple - you just 'tag' all the people who you are interested in 'Yes' and 'Maybe' ...we then tell you when you have a mutual match (i.e. you both have clicked Yes/Maybe to each other). You 'Tag' the people by clicking on the appropriate coloured button. The beauty of the YNM system is that (unlike 'Favourites') no one can directly tell if/what someone has tagged them - only if you are a mutual Yes/Maybe. So no need to worry about causing offence by tagging people as a No or that people will think you are too keen by tagging them as a Yes or a Yes! We recommend that you do lots of tagging because tagging:
...but please don't just do tagging. Proactively send winks and messages as well!
To get lots of mutual matches our advice is: Log in regularly - tag lots of people - don't be too fussy ...and it should throw up some interesting possibilities.
We have another special search called Not Yet Tagged . This lets you easily just see 'New' faces in the results i.e. not have your results clogged up with profiles you have seen umpteen times before.
These are for members who are organised and like categorising things. They let you put people in an intermediate or extreme box which you can review and re-categorise later if you wish (from the People page on the top menu). The two boxes either side of the central Maybe box let you tag people as Yes/Maybe and Maybe/Hmmm The extreme green box is for Yes! (i.e. this person really is your cup of tea) and the extreme right red box is No! (...as in 'No way Jose!'). The other person has no idea if they are a Yes! or just a Yes. These subcategories are for your own use and Matchbot as well (our computer can use them when trying to match you). It deletes any previous tag you may have applied to the person. Effectively this 'Untags' them.
You are welcome to review and reclassify people as often as you wish
How long do you keep my tags for? In order to speed up the system we need to delete old tags periodically - as tagging accumulates millions of records. We will keep data for the following minimum lengths
You are most welcome to re-tag people when the data gets cleared. If you are a mutual match then there will have been an email generated that acts as your permanent record. 3 weeks is typically enough time to wait to see if you become a mutual match. 8 weeks makes it more convenient for Full Members to do a NotYet Tagged search without having to do excessive re-tagging.
Further Discussion... Not Yet Tagged Search
The 'Tag Some People' button (various places) and 'Not Yet Tagged' link (Search sub-menu) go one step further. They do a search based on your Speedy Criteria and if they ever run out of people they adjust themselves slightly to keep giving you more people to Tag. You shouldn't have to worry about going back and forth adjusting criteria ...you just keep tagging until the profiles get too far removed from what you're looking for. The idea is you just press 'Tag Some People' every few days and get
tagging. Of course we'd encourage you to send emails, winks, icebreaker and 'Add
to favourites' as well.
Why does Tagging help the site?
Essentially we can break down members of dating sites into several
different groups. Let us consider the following four categories. These are not
meant to encompass everyone but just significant numbers of members
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1. The Noticeably Attractive Very good looking and/or have a great job and interesting profile. 2. The Regularly Proactive Have a good profile and send lots of interesting messages out. 3. The Average but Selective Only send messages to a fairly select number of people. The people they send them to often tend to be the 'Noticeably Attractive' or similar. 4. The Wallflowers/Spectators Don't send messages out proactively - wait to be contacted in some way. Group 1 receives loads of messages and Group 2 receives 'enough' replies. So the Tagging system (tagging profiles Yes or Maybe) can be superfluous to their use of the site Groups 3 and 4 >>>the Tagging system opens up more dating
opportunities and kick-starts their use of the site.
Group 4 is really large! Lots of people join dating sites and wait for the world to beat a path to their door. People in group 4 are very reluctant to send an email
unprompted. However, they can be more easily persuaded to tag profiles as 'Maybe'. When
they receive some prompt e.g. a wink, message or alert to say someone likes them
then this can be catalyst to get them to write a message. The Tagging system
prompts Group 4 people (Wallflowers/Spectators) to start chatting with each other.
Group 3 (Average but Selective ) probably don't realise that they are focusing on the same 'popular' profiles everyone else is. Also they tend to be (perhaps subconsciously) trying to date if not 'out of their league' but 'at the top of their league'. Hence they can get a poor response rate. By having a weekly quota of tagging and our new 'Not Yet Tagged' search we encourage
them to go slightly beyond their comfort zone of focussing on a small number
of the same (most popular) profiles.
The 'Not Yet Tagged' search is great as it shows more and more
'unviewed' people. Hence there is no need to wade through he 'same' people that are
always at the top of the search lists (because they login most often).
Getting Group 3 people to look at 'different' profiles and perhaps expand
their boundaries with a few more 'Maybes' generates real dating
opportunities.
So essentially if you are in Group 1 or 2 you probably don't need/appreciate the benefit of the tagging system. If you are a Group 1/2 person - you can ignore the tagging system if it annoys you ...it is not compulsory. We would agree with Group 2 people that writing an email is much better than tagging people. However, it would be
good for you to note that large numbers of people in
groups 3 and 4 really do benefit. We can see their use of the site and messaging increasing
...however (unlike Group 2) they are the least likely to email in
to admin to give us feedback on this matter. ;-)
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